My amazing mother has regularly been a pretty cool guy with me! He never tried to upgrade my real Mom after he passed, however he was there for me, and i am about to turn legal age, about to graduate high university, and for the last year my stepMom has told me that rent is due after that.
He isn’t going to kick me out, but resting on my ass trying to “figure myself out” is not in the cards for me.
If I can get into university, I was able to do exactly that, and otherwise I need to get a task and begin earning, just like he had to do when he turned 18… My stepMom is a Heating, Ventilation, and A/C corporation, who has a crew of several guys to job on commercial upgrade tasks, mostly… Occasionally it is ventilation systems for shopping malls or large scale buildings like that, other times he sets up mass installs on the core utilities and A/C hookups for new housing complexes. It is hard work, and he told me if I had hoped to get into the family business (his family, and now mine too) then he would put me on the Heating, Ventilation, and A/C crew. He wasn’t planning to cut me any slack, I would be expected to work as hard as most people else, however if I enjoyed it then eventually he would fund my evening classes to get my Heating, Ventilation, and A/C certification. Once again, this wasn’t preferential treatment, he provided to spend the money for Heating, Ventilation, and A/C classes for any of his workers that were committed to succeeding. I’m not sure if I like Heating, Ventilation, and A/C work, although I like his offer.